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Never a man in a good suit on his knees on the front steps, holding a straw hat in both hands, making the sound that grief makes when it has finally run out of places to hide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>James Whitfield, forty-three years old, senior partner, did not care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He had stopped caring approximately fourteen minutes ago, in Conference Room B on the fourth floor, when the reading of his father&#8217;s will had concluded and he had understood, with the full weight of legal finality, what the document said \u2014 and what it didn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>The old man standing over him was named Cesar Delgado.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He was sixty-seven years old, lean and weathered in the way of men who have spent their lives working outdoors, with hands that were mapped by labor and a face that the South Carolina sun had been annotating for decades. 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